Yesterday was the Mom’s Minute Monthly gathering for June. If you weren’t able to join us, we studied some of the qualities and characteristics of the Virtuous Woman as described in Proverbs 31. After reading the verses, we discussed our thoughts and made application to our lives in today’s modern world compared to when the passage was originally penned. We then imagined what those qualities would “look” like and made a pictorial collage, cutting and gluing images from magazines and catalogs. The goal is for the collage to be a visual reminder of the characteristics displayed by the Virtuous Woman, and the challenge is to work on the areas where we fall short.
Some of what we discussed included the fact that in v.11, the word “trust” means to be confident in, to feel safe, to be careless. Our husbands should leave the home each day and not worry about what we are doing while he is away. Not just in terms of fidelity, but our conduct, finances, managing the house, child rearing, etc. As one mom shared, it means the freedom to “fight” without worrying about serious consequences; that both husband and wife know that both are committed to the long-term covenant of marriage and that even though they may disagree on something, one spouse isn’t going to walk out on the other.
We spent quite a bit of time discussing verse 12. One mom pointed out that doing good is an intentional thing; it doesn’t just happen. We talked about ways we can do “good” in our daily lives. Examples included doing things the way our husbands prefer over the way we usually do it. For instance, my husband doesn’t like his clothes to be put in the dryer. It takes a little bit more time and effort on my part to sort out his clothes from the washer as I’m putting the wet clothes into the dryer, but I do try my best to hang his clothes as he likes. We also discussed giving our spouses the benefit of the doubt, and another mom shared that we need to be willing to overlook the small stuff “in love.”
In v13 we discussed synonyms for “work”: make, produce, attend to, deal with, observe, acquire, etc and how that applies to almost all aspects of being a wife and mother. We make meals, we attend to children, we deal with arguments between siblings, we acquire food, clothing, and other items in order to meet the needs of our families.
Verse 15 was also discussed at length. The room seemed to be pretty even in the number of early risers versus night owls, but we all came to the agreement that it doesn’t matter which one you are. One is not superior to the other, and the point of the passage is simply that from the time the Virtuous Woman wakes to the time she goes to bed, she is productive in her day. She has excellent time-management skills and makes the most of her day. She accomplishes what needs to be done and doesn’t waste her time sleeping or being lazy.
We had to end at verse 15 so that we would have time to work on our collages, but I challenge you, read the passage (Proverbs 31:10-31) for yourself and make your own collage as a way to help you be a better wife and mother. Of course no one is perfect, and the passage is given as a model for women to know how to live. When we read about the Virtuous Wife, we should compare our own life to hers. When we find shortcomings (and we will), we need to ask God to help us make the necessary changes so that we can bring glory to Him. This type of study is a great way to spend some time in God’s word, getting to know and really understand what He desires for us as women, wives, and moms.
Charm is deceitful and beauty is passing, But a woman who fears the LORD, she shall be praised.